There’s an odd rule for teenagers today: ‘If you posted it, it happened’. Every snap, tweet, post, photo that you share in social media is a highlight memory in your life, showing everyone your interests, your activities and what you are feelings at that moment.
You’d be lying if you don’t admit that you like seeing these posts, maybe even envy them. These candid or posed photos are shoved to your face saying, “Hey, these are the best moments of my life; what are you doing with yours?”. Quite harsh, but it feels like that.
We also posts our feelings religiously, almost unhealthily, to the point that we probably know everything dramatically wrong in your life. However, do we really need to know the smallest things about you? Do we know the line before it’s TMI?
Recently, stories and posts have been filled with heavily emotion-driven things that tell everyone how you feel and how you think. An example for that are private accounts in Instagram and Snapchat, where people share the random, weird or just general things about themselves.
Once you enter someone’s private, you are considered to be one of the people they like or trust. These could be your feelings or certain moments of ups and downs that could define you as a person or define the image that people form as they get to know you.
Although, this could disorient how new people will view you and also could be used against you. The moment of defeat that has been shared publicly could stick like glue for people’s impressions. They will see this as a sign of weakness. Certain topics would be a disadvantage to your social integrity and become your unwanted identity description.
Honestly, people post too much in social media. The last bite of your dinner, the new sock set that you bought, how you felt after a minor exam; do we really need to know these things? It seemed to be a force of movement to post everything that you do to keep everyone updated on your life. No need for CCTVs, we are our own paparazzi.
The concept of ‘living in the moment’ is dying as every move of ours is being noted and shared, plastered to a white page for everyone to see, but not really care about. How did we grow to this habit of ultra-sharing?
Everyone needs to understand that not everything should be there for everyone to see. There’s no sin to post your beloved photos and precious memories, but keep the most intimate moments in your mind, not your pages.
Not all private events should be up on your privates. Your flaws and exact times of lows could stay up for the world to see and it will be used against you; better to console with the words of the people around you than the comment section.
It’s best to enjoy time during that moment through your own two eyes, not through the camera. And yes, if you didn’t post it, it could still happen.
Khris is in Year 11 and lives in Invercargill. She likes dancing, music, writing, trying new things and exploring the fun in everything.